What a pleasant surprise!!!

 

 

有得選擇，通常好少星期一 run training, simply because 自己星期日 (sometimes both 星期六 and 星期日) 通常都會 run NLP training, 所以都會有丁點攰，但更重要係啲 participants 通常都係 being here but not here, Monday Syndrome 也!

通常還通常，今早仍是替香港會計師公會 (HKICPA) run 了一個 3-hour 的 Stress Management workshop。好 surprised見到十八個好有心有神的會計同業來上堂。他們不單醒神無恰眼瞓，仲好積極參與呢!!!   They really made my day!!! 好開心!

我覺得自己真係好好彩，可以有幸做著一份自已好喜愛好投入的工作 (i.e. being a trainer, a coach and a therapist) 。你哋都係呀，成世人流流長，一定要努力讓自己:

1.   Love what you do

2.   Love who you are with

3.   Love who you are (i.e. your role)

即使當年做 audit and in-house training我都真係 enjoy 架!!!  對我嚟講，love or hate 其實只是 perception (看法), 所以是自己可以 control到的!

不過要說今天令我最驚喜的莫過於 workshop 完了之後有兩位 participants 跟我說有看我的 blog, 內容令他們得到一些 positive 的想法，希望我可以多有些發表文章。(OK, 收到! Thank you for your kind support!!! What a great joyful bonus I got from you both today!!! :>)

搬進新居已個多月，一切已 settled down, 自己當然每天都 very much enjoy 著。更重要是 J 跟 Creamy 也很愛新居 (見圖就知 Creamy 有幾 enjoy 喇!) 。很滿足。我覺得居所大或小原來真係其次，最重要是屋內有沒有 love and warmth! 自小我都認為屋企是一個很重要的地方。無論出面有多大風大雨，屋企永遠都是一個 best rejuvenating shelter (回氣の地方)! 請努力去建立及維繫一個互愛的家!  Nothing is more important than that! 

三十小神仙 – 感動參與

好久不見!!!

最近數月公私兩忙，更第一次 NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner Programmes 同步梅花間竹地進行中。過去的一個 weekend 終於感覺自己再次 back to basic, back to normal…my 1^st time since 1 year ago!!!

 

星期六跟 J 一齊去看只此一場的《三十小神仙》。自問自己是聽電台節目《三個小神仙》長大的一群，當年也很理所當然的成為林姍姍的忠實 fans。三十年 wow 一聲咁過去了，前晚看著聽著阿旦跟姍姍在台上說著自己過去三十年的點滴、苦與樂，我們的那三十年 (i.e. 1981-2011) 也好像在我的腦海中快速地回帶一遍。那些年…我們一起走過的日子。

 

我覺得個 show 令好我感動。阿 Lam 的出現，三人合唱《三人行》; 阿旦說他的「衰三年」經歴; 姍姍憶述她自己當年去美國產女以及跟陳百強及羅文的點滴，令我深深領悟他倆所說的兩句:

 

「這刻的低潮可能正是下個高潮的開始。」-- 阿旦

 

「機會只會給予有準備的人。」-- 羅文 (as quoted by 姍姍)

 

好可能今日我們正處於低潮深海中，但請咬緊牙關，沉著應戰，事情最終都會過去的。三十年不是一個短時間，回望自己過去三十年的一些高低潮，我慶幸自己並沒放棄。正如個 show 的主題: 過去的經歴，今天的啟示，我們得到的遠比付出的多。

 

感謝在我前半生出現過的所有人和事。感恩我能幹著自己熱愛有意義的工作和在我身邊對我不離不棄、愛著我的你和你。只要仍是活著，生命仍是精采!

 

 

愛得累嗎?

最近一連看了兩齣關於愛情の電影 《情約一天》和舞台劇 《3D 女槍手》，不約而同令我諗著這條問題:  「為乜要愛」?

實情是很多人窮一生去找愛最終失望而回或繼續等愛；一些人曾經擁有愛最後卻失去愛；只有非常少的人「覺得」自已找到真愛。

是愛與否、是真是假、是有是無我認為只是自已的一個「覺得」而矣。一直以為 Seeing is Believing (給我見到是為真!) 是真理其實是 Believing is Seeing!  As long as 我們相信一些事是事實、認為一些事是重要、覺得一些事是正確，你便會很 motivate 去實踐並找很多的例經證去 validate 你的所思所想。

就上面提及的電影和舞台劇的女主角們都經歷過愛的洗禮令她們領會到以下的數點最終令她們修成正果:

1.      Take ownership that you are part of the cause of what happens to you – blame others and the environment for what they did to you is always too easy but never helpful; reflect on what you might have been done to cause this to happen, evaluate their impact on your loved one and on the relationship and see what you can do differently to make it right.

2.      Ask yourself, “is the person really that important to you?”  If so, then weight between your “ego” and “him/her” and adjust accordingly.  最近看過一篇羅敏莊跟陳國邦的訪問。Mimi 不諱言是她主動追求陳國邦的, 既然我們成日都喊著要男女平等，那麽我們又為甚麼咁介意邊個追邊個、邊個揾錢多過邊個、邊個付出多過邊個?  會計算咁多的話，我想好奇問吓你，「你有幾愛佢」?   Be reminded ladies, as beautiful, capable and available as you, 現今很多 (or太多?!) 的男性不單溝通真的越嚟越不濟的同時，他們在各方面也真的跟你們越嚟越「平等」。所以希望你們能接受這是事實的同時，儘量去發掘及 focus on 他們有和好的東西吧。

3.      Ask yourself, “do you enjoy being with him/her?”  說到底，為乜要愛呢? Love is meant to be enjoyable not torturing!  若果跟她/他一起一段時間後仍覺得一點都唔享受的話，你真係要諗清楚!!!
但是甚麼才算在愛情這課題上「修成正果」?  很簡單, 最好的自已是不論你在一個環境、一段關係、或一個人面前它都能夠讓你活得自信、自在、自若。  Wish you well!

By the way, 糊塗戲班的《3D 女槍手》值得推介，好睇好笑好戲 (esp. 廖淑芬飾演 Diane 的角色 - 好出!!!). 套戲會在 23-25 September 喺香港大會堂上演。有興趣去睇吖。作為女士的你們，看時應該或多或少會有共鳴。  Enjoy the show!

回家真好!!!

返香港已個多星期，一切也回復正常 (including my jetlag) 。始終都係覺得香港是最好的!!!

屈指一算，原來我已不經不覺寫了兩年多的 blog，由最初被前經理人 B 鼓勵下開始把自己的所思所想以及對 NLP 的一些看法寫出來。某天晚上偶然看了一看 blog の「统計資料」裡的累積瀏覽數字剛好是 40,000 人次。 Wow, 喜出望外呀!  雖然對好多 bloggers 嚟講，呢個數字好濕碎，但對我, I feel so happy & grateful!!! 喂，你又唔係名人，而家又咁多人 facebook, twitter, 微博，你寫果啲嘢又唔係好有 noise 或controversial!!!  有咁多人睇過你啲文字，我已經好滿足!!!  多謝你哋呀!!!

最近看過一篇報導，說 2010 最暢銷的文字書是鄭秀文的《值得》。但 “wow” 的是，加印再加印出了好多版卻原來都是賣了萬多本（希望當中不包括 e-book 吧）。真不知香港人仲買唔買、睇唔睇書既呢？其實我已有計劃想再寫兩本書，但觀乎現在的閱讀文化，真係唔係太有推動力…umm!

講起推動力，回港後第一個 training event 便是主持了第二十二班 NLP Practitioner Certification Programme 的畢業日。跟廿多名參加者很開心的過了一個 very fruitful 的晚上。當中有 participant 跟我說覺得我今次習訓回來後好像不同了，好似「升咗呢」!!!  真令人鼓舞。要繼續加油將自己所學到的 NLP skills & knowledge 透過最好的自己 (include my attitude and unique training style) 把它最 resourceful 的給予我的學生。咁就功德無量喇!  :> 

下一班 NLP Practitioner Certification Programme九月底開班，學生們，請接招!

他們畢業了!!!

十八天的課程、十八天的汗水、十八天的鍊歷，他們畢業了!!! 我又多了四十多位同門師弟、師妹、NLP 同業。

作為他們的 coach，在這十八天裡我們的工作是啟發他們對 NLP の深層認知、對教學の掌握、以及應具備一個怎樣の心態和態度去做一個 bullet-proof, all rounded の NLP trainer in their own context (with cultural, geographical and perspective differences) 。

作為一個 NLP Master Trainer candidate, 在這十八天對我們來說也是一個 practical 的on-the-job training去訓練我們的 flexibility, endurance and most importantly, whether 我們能否 walk-the-talk, 做一個 walking example, 一個 role-model, 甚至 demonstrate 比他們更高層次的 Master Trainer 料子。所以在工作之餘，我們也同時被評核呢 (by 老師 & 學生)! 所以呢個 trip 都幾 challenging。

說回來，作為同學 G, 同學 M, 同學 W的NLP 啟蒙老師，原來親歷見証著他們畢業終於跟自己一樣成為 NLP trainer, 感覺真的好感動!!! 我成日同佢地講，呢個課程學嘅不再是 NLP の 內容而是 NLP の application 及在如何 get through 及 enjoy 整個過程 (i.e. the process) 。由 1^st day 見到他們的青澀到 last day 在眉宇間那份對 training 的初發自信, 呢啲咪叫 transformation 囉! :>

 

During the course, 不只一次有同學仔走嚟同我講: “You know, I find among the group of us, G, M and W are very good with their stuff.  They really know what they are doing and know what they are talking about.  They are good, man!  You should be proud of them!!!”  I said, “I am highly proud of them.” It is true.  見到他們的 commitment, 勤奮以及在各方面の表現和進步，我簡直有面上燙金的感覺!!! G, M, W, 感謝你們的付出和努力。你們真的令我感到很自豪 (though I know you have had some pressure needing to do well with my presence.  Yet, I always have good faith in you all)… 真係仲開心過自己比人讚! 相信這就是「薪火相傳」的真諦及感受吧。 真的期待目睹更多自己的學生將成為 NLP 培訓界有心有力の生力軍，為社會帶來多些成功和快樂的人!!!  這正是 NLP 的精神及存在價值。

在衆多 coaches 當中，Coach K 今年畢業喇! 她成為北美首位 American Board of NLP certified master trainer (除咗老師 Tad & Adriana James 外喇 of course!)!  五年努力付出後の成果，掌聲鼓勵!!!  Very happy for her.  為了自己來日有期 の 「中國首位」，她會是我的 role model, 我的目標, 甚至是一個要超越的對象。
要成功，有目標 (SMART goal)，堅毅 (perseverance), 內在平安的心 (inner peace), 清明心 (clarity), 你就有約!  一起 Ganbatte!!!

同一樣的天空，不一樣的心情

今天是課程的第二次 day off。起床後去了 Five Guys 食 burger and fries (hey, 在 US, 係食呢啲架喇!  OK 的!) 。

之後在街逛吓逛吓經過一間 pawn shop，好奇下入咗去睇吓。裡面乜都有得賣喎。Hi-fi, i-pod, i-phone, TV, guitars, drums, jewelry, watches, DVD, games, 連車呔都有得賣。正當我睇得入神之際，有個男人拿著一支很漂亮很新的吉他幽幽的走入舖頭去典當，賣了二百多元後低著頭悄悄然走了。

看著今天的報紙，報導著美國經濟會如何差，股市又會繼續向下尋底等等。我輕望窗外，微風樹動、光照依然。

經過大堂，碰到數位 trainer candidates 正在努力為未來的四天 evaluation 作最後衝刺。看見他們有的滿有信心、有的默然不語、有的面帶憂慮。形形色色，實像社會の一個最佳縮影。而我，便繼續享受著今天的 day off, 寫吓 blog，睇吓書 (cos 之後數天會非常忙碌改卷, 120% 專心做 assessment…yeek!)。

我們的人生，好彩唔好彩，我們條路都應該仲有排行。雖然要行多遠唔知，沿途有無風光又唔知，天氣係點都唔知，但既然係咪都係繼續行，就行得開心啲喇。你可以話上面條路好長、天氣好熱、成件事好悶好 dry；相對地你也可以覺得條路好平好直、天氣很好、環境好寧靜。講到底都係你我點睇件事和周圍環境啫!

我在想，這一刻你我正分享著同一樣的天空，在香港的你，是否跟我有著同一樣的心情？

Training at the desert

Having training in Henderson (a suburban city 15 minutes from Las Vegas in Nevada) is quite a good experience.  Weather is nearly sunny and super-hot every day (some days over 40 degrees).  But it isn’t too bad because it is dry.

Today is the 10^th day of training and the participants are entering into an exciting moment in learning as they will be having their 2^nd mock presentation (to be evaluated and commented by coaching assistants).  Next week, they will be evaluated real time for qualification as NLP trainers.  These days both the participants and us as coaching assistants have been working hard, having late hours in training (yesterday till 9pm) trying to put things in order to set forth for the evaluation next week. 

One evening after class, I passed by a participant having her hands full of grocery.  This participant from England told me that she hadn’t had “real” food for the past week so she bought US$250 worth of grocery from Albertsons and was heading back to her room to cook some real meat and fresh vegetable!  Poor soul!  For me, the food at the hotel is of course not considered as fabulous but still OK.  It is rather the timing of having them that is not ideal.  Normally, they treat dinner from 5-7pm Monday to Thursday, but we are still having class at that time so we have to literally shuffle food into our mouth during a super short dinner break (with line-up for food) before we engage into an exercise until evening. 

Well, for me, I see it only as temporal yet when you look back, it will be good learning experience in becoming a bullet-proof solid NLP trainer once you get certified.  It is a good process that we as NLP trainer ought to go through.  As coaching assistants, our job is to ensure they are on track, hanging in the process and help them get what they truly want for their career.  As a master trainer candidate, I value the experience I am having here so I know crystal clear what it takes for me to certify my 1^st batch of NLP trainer in soon future!

However, I do miss my cat sooooo much and am glad I see her in this latest photo and will be back by late next week!